Last week I threw a book party!
Over the last 18 months I have been working on a book “Who says you’re not creative?”
I finally published and celebrated this milestone in my life on Monday July 22nd- which also happened to be my birthday. (I usually ‘take stock’ on my birthday so this seemed like a good day to launch!)
I was overwhelmed by the support in the room- around 30 people came after work on a hot sweltering Monday evening. I showed my book to the world: business pals, close personal friends, my husband and son. My presentation went well, I felt relaxed rather than nervous and I had lots of positive feedback. A little light drinking was also had- including a matching blue cocktail which the Manager of the bar kindly supplied- what a party!
A week after the party
So after all the fun and celebrating what happens now? Now that people will begin to read my work? Am I nervous? Maybe slightly. Writing a book is an interesting process on many levels. During it’s creation you question your credibility for writing a book. You also think of particular people, maybe work collegaues or family members, that will read it. What will they think of it?? Will their opinion of you change for the worse?
For me to have published I had to confront these questions and be able to deal with them. On a concsious level I feel ok about everything. My job, for me, was to put the book into the world. I needed to see if I could do it, I needed to discover for myself what I thought about this fascination subject that is the basis of all my work.
I recently re read Susan Jeffers book Embracing Uncertainty and she said something that struck a chord. She gave the example of Drew Barrymore ‘letting go’ of her movies once they were released. She almost kissed them good bye and disconnected herself from what people might think of it- as this was beyond her control. Jeffers calls this the ‘scissors of the mind’ exercise. “As long as you are tied [to an expectation] you are not free”
An audio I recently listened to also provided a perspective on this situation I now find myself post party. ‘You are not the opinion of others..in fact you are not even the opinion of yourself’. This took me a while to understand but once you get it- it’s great one to have as part of your belief system.
So it’s gone- I’ve done my bit to create it. Some people may not like it- others may love it. But if there’s one thing in there that inspires someone to change and create something positive for themselves – I think that’s pretty good. Also- as long as I like it- I’m ok with the opinions come my way.
Post party feedback
So far I’ve had a couple of tweets back. Saying ‘love your book’ which is great. A friend of mine Deborah Burdette also mentioned me on her blog today.
“I had a major clear out of my office this morning. I’m in need of some fresh ideas and the thought was that if I clear my desk for new things I’ll clear my mind for new things too.
I’m reading ‘Who says you’re not creative’ by my friend Prith Biant and will be doing some of the exercises she recommends to get some INSPIRATION!”
I’m meeting her on Friday so I’ll be able to chat more then.
Do I have post party blues? No not at all. Now is just the beginning of more that I want to create around the book. I have a vision board full of ideas! More new workshops, an audio version, note cards with quotes from the book, may be even a full colour version of the book. This is just the beginning- the party in my head has only just started!
Loved the book. Would love to know the audio you listened to. I have been listening to Wayne Dyer this holiday who says other people’s opinion of you is none of your business as we need to be independant of other people’s opinion. Maslow’s self actualization stage is being independant of the good opinion of others.We are then detached from outcome and doing things we believe in and living life on purpose, and therefore authentic. You have now obviously reached this stage, as has Drew Barrymore! Would love to meet up and explore some ideas. I am home tomorrow so will get touch. Would love you to be one of my sparklers. Speak soon. Have a lovely evening.xl
I’m glad you ‘loved the book’. Thank you.
I’m thinking the audio I was listening to, Kat Dever, was probably quoting W Dyer- the quotes just too close. A while a go I used to teach Maslow and everytime I talked about the top of the pyramid- I did think- Hey I’m there! Or hovering around at least. Since leaving employment my world is so different and I have had to change so much in lots of ways. I do feel I am on a path to discover my zone of genius and looking at what ‘feels right’ for me to do. You could call this ‘living on purpose.’ Flattered to be your Sparkler- look forward to chatting. Lots of love Px